Some marriages thrive, some marriages simply get by, while other marriages fail so miserably that the couple crash and burn.
Men and women usually have high hopes and dreams before entering a marriage, so it's sad to hear when a marriage fails. But what's the secret that separates thriving marriages from those that don't? Christian couple and life coaches Greg and Julie Gorman writes in an article for The Christian Post that the secret is surprisingly simple.
"Couples who live for a greater purpose — together — thrive," they say. "Relationships that thrive embrace the central truth that God created each of them individually, for a distinct purpose and then hardwired them lovingly and masterfully for a distinct purpose, only the two of them will accomplish, together."
The Gormans say that God created each person distinctly, and He has chosen people's spouses for a unique person. So when these two creations of God meet and get married, they will carry out God's design just like Adam and Eve.
However, the Gormans say that God's plan for people's marriages will only be attained if "the two of you [are] operating as one — physically, emotionally, and spiritually."
"When we unify towards a common purpose our relationship thrives more naturally. When we grab hold of God's big idea for our relationship — that two are better than one — our unity reflects the cooperative nature of the Trinity and brings God pleasure," they explain. "As we bring God pleasure, we perpetuate more of Him in our relationship, and the more we perpetuate Him in our relationship, the more we live life as He intended."
People who work as a single unit don't think, "How can I get my spouse to change?" because their focus will always be, "God, how can we bring You pleasure in our marriage? How can we impact this world together?"
The Gormans say unified couples tend to enjoy marriage and celebrate their relationship to its fullest. "Like anything in life, there is power, connection, and unity when we share a similar goal and desired outcome. When we live purpose-focused, our relationship and servanthood is not drudgery — it's life giving," they say.
