Are you sick not only of hearing about crude dating apps in which you swipe left or right for instant hook-ups, but also sick of the very concept of dating itself?
Do you reject sex outside marriage and seek to meet someone who is like-minded, and wants to marry and have a family?
Then you might want to try one of the newest sites in the field – one with a difference: www.gomarry.com is the brainchild of the successful 35-year-old entrepreneur Azad Chaiwala, a Sunderland-based Muslim who describes himself as 'very traditional'.
The site launched last month and at the time of writing, Chaiwala says it has 5,000 subscribers, but he confidently estimates that by its first birthday, it will boast a million users.
'I believe that there is a massive demand for a no nonsense website that cuts past the failure that is dating and gets right to the point when it comes to long term, serious relationships,' he says.
Chaiwala tells Christian Today: 'I am a very traditional person. I believe family is the backbone of any society. If you lose family, you've lost society.'
Chaiwala is a landlord who owns a number of properties and says they are all full of single mothers, and this inspired him to create this site.
'This is where society is heading and this is why this website is set up,' he says.
It is also the result of all the sites which offer what he describes as 'one swipe, a one night stand and that's it'.
He goes as far as to declare that 'dating doesn't work. Dating websites only give you a date, not results. One person might want family but the other just wants a good time – no compatibility. On our website we guarantee marriage: we don't send you on dates. We have marriage meetings where you are not playing the human mating dance – you are there to make sense of the other person.'
Marriage without dating might seem a leap for many and could even sound like an arranged deal rather than marrying for love.
But the site is about your intention and finding the most compatible companion rather than forcing you into a lifelong commitment. After couples have met and got to know each other, Chawala offers a book of 101 practical questions people need to pose and answer before they chose whether to get married.
And, crucially, when prospective couples meet they are each accompanied by a chaperone: an aunt, uncle, colleague, boss. 'Not a yes man,' explains Chaiwala. 'They are there to ensure you stay true to yourself, not bragging, showing off, dressing up.'
The questions users face can be tough, such as whether they have any sexually transmitted diseases. But they are also aimed at maximising compatibility.
'Most marriages die or decay slowly, because of incompitability. They knaw at you and the whole thing collapses. Marriage is not about the big gestures – taking someone to Paris, proposing to someone in front of the Eiffel Tower – it is about the daily grind, the kind of food that you eat, watching the same shows, both wanting children and so on.
'So right from the beginning, without making a commitment, without having any vested love or heartache, if you can find out the compatible direction in life you'd have a very successful marriage.'
