Messing divorce guilt: "I wasn't able to give my son the fantasy" - Debra talks split with Daniel Zelman

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Debra Messing opened up about her divorce from writer Daniel Zelman and spoke about her guilt in the latest issue of More magazine.

The 44-year-old was married to Zelman for 10 years before they filed for divorce in June 2012.

"We both wanted it to last forever, and it's a sad thing that it wasn't able to go the course," the actress said, according to PEOPLE "Part of me will always contend with guilt that I wasn't able to give my son the fantasy that my parents were able to give me."

The couple have a 9-year-old son, Roman.

"We really tried," she says. "We made sacrifices and compromises, and in the end we both realized that we like the day-to-day domestic life."

She continued: "We really tried. We made sacrifices and compromises, and in the end we both realized that we like the day-to-day domestic life."

Messing is best known for her TV roles in "Will & Grace", "Starter Wife" and "Smash." She won the Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Comedy Series in 2003 for her performance in "Will & Grace."

Messing and Zelman both attended New York University's Tisch School of the Arts. Zelman is an executive producer of the FX drama series "Damages."

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