Candace Cameron Bure gives marriage advice, explains being a 'submissive' wife

(Photo: ABC)Candace Cameron Bure

Former child actress Candace Cameron Bure explained how she makes her marriage work in a recent interview, and explained what being submissive to her husband means to her.

Cameron Bure has been married to her husband, Valeri Bure, for 19 years, and they have three children. She explained that making time for each other is one of the ways that they remain connected.

"It's easier for my husband and I to have dates now that our children are older but a few years ago, we struggled to find time for date night or an afternoon lunch," the 38-year-old told Yahoo Parenting. "But it's worth it to make it a priority, otherwise, you see how it affects a marriage. 

"Friendship is the foundation of marriage but you also need private time…You need that intimacy — not just romantic but also through conversation."

The couple's children are 16, 14, and 12, and the Bures also make it a priority not to argue in front of them.

"If we get into something heated and see that it's becoming a bigger issue, we say, 'We need to stop now' and take it behind closed doors," the "Dancing With The Stars" alum said. 

"We don't want our kids to see yelling but we want them to see what healthy arguing looks like. We want to be on the same team when it comes to making rules so we talk privately to decide what works and then present a unified front to the kids."

Last year, Cameron Bure received criticism after referring to her role in the marriage as "submissive." The Christian actress explained that she is submissive in a biblical sense, and she is not in an inferior position in the marriage.

"My husband is not a dictator," she insisted. "We work together but I don't want to dig my heels in and I have no aspirations to be the ruler of my family. We are two equal people but I love my husband and I want him to lead."

Cameron Bure said that they put each other on a pedestal, rather than her solely elevating him.

"I honour my husband and encourage him to be the best man and father he can be. I put him on a pedestal so he can grow," she continued. "And he does the same for me. Men and women are different in how they want to feel love and respect.

"To go back to the Bible, men are told to love their wives and women are told to respect their husbands. When a man feels respected, that is love to him."

 

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