XXX Church cites important life lessons people learn from porn addiction

As painful as it is to struggle with porn addiction, there are still some good things that addicts can get from their situation. XXX Church, an online ministry dedicated to helping people with porn and sex addictions, says addicts are bound to learn from their mistakes.

"Yeah: learn. You learn stuff. Sometimes you get so wrapped up in the addiction and finding that next fix that you miss out on what addictions teach you," Zachary Horner writes on the ministry's website. "But when you begin to get a handle on the addiction, begin to fight it, you start to learn some important life lessons. Some real ones."

For one thing, addicts learn that their mistakes affect not just themselves but also those around them. Horner says there are countless stories of wives who were emotionally destroyed because of their husbands' porn addiction. Pastors hooked on porn have also rocked the faith of those in their congregation.

The second lesson addicts learn is that some emotional scars are permanent, and it's bound to hurt when hit again. "One of the most painful parts of dealing with sexual addiction is seeing reminders of it in surprising places," says Horner. "Whenever there's a joke on a television show about porn or a reference to masturbation somewhere, I wince because I'm reminded of something that brought me pain."

Addicts also learn how to get back up when their addictions knock them down. "Getting back up when we fall is evidence that we really want to beat the addiction, we want to beat what is holding us down. Just like the boxer who won't let a knockdown ruin his fight, we can't let losses hold us back from pursuing victory in the end," says Horner.

The fourth lesson addicts can learn is that it's easy to slip from one bad decision after another, and the only way to stop is to be brave and stop making compromises. Usually, mistakes start small and then it expands. When it becomes too big, people find it more difficult to control.

Lastly, Horner says conquering any bad habit requires time, attention, encouragement, and effort. "To get through an illness or work off a bad habit, you need to do the right things, and be consistent," he says. "If you hardly spend any time trying to overcome it, you won't get anywhere. It needs your full attention. You need encouragement from other people, and you need to give all of yourself to fight it."

Horner is encouraging addicts not to let these lessons go to waste. Former addicts can also enlighten others who may be going through the same issues.

He says God does not let people suffer just for themselves, because every time they go through hard times and fight certain sins, it becomes an opportunity for them to help others who might be dealing with the same things.