What are the truths about porn that the church refuses to tell people?

Back in the old days, the church would veer away from the topic of porn. If it did tackle it, church leaders would often say "pretty awkward and downright hurtful things" about it.

XXX Church, an online ministry dedicated to helping people solve their porn and sex addictions, is happy that things are changing with regards to the church's stance on porn.

"The church is learning more and more what is helpful and true, and just how Jesus really sees porn producers and users. I am thankful for that! But we still have a long way to go," Alice Neaves writes on the group's website.

Still, Neaves says there are things that the church still refuses to acknowledge about porn. The first of these is the fact that porn feels good. "When you're in the 'zone' and have decided to act on that temptation, the anticipation and sexual release of porn feels good. Like, really good," she says.

People's innate desire to be wanted, loved, and touched gets satiated. However, this all passes when the "porn hangover" begins. Neaves acknowledges that this is difficult and embarrassing to talk about, but people need this discussion to recover from their addictions.

"Ministry and education are needed to salve the many porn hangovers churchgoers show up with on a Sunday...and the rest of the week," says Neaves.

The next thing that the church usually denies about porn is that a lot of women enjoy watching it. Neaves says women experience lust and desire just like men, but porn has so long been a "guys' issue" that people get shocked when they hear just how many women actually access porn.

"One in three visitors to adult websites are women, 17 percent consider themselves addicted, 49 percent of young women deem pornography an acceptable way of expressing one's sexuality, and 60 percent of girls have been exposed to porn before age eighteen," she says.

Lastly, Neaves says God isn't the only one who can help porn and sex addicts. Because God loves His children so much, He has placed "incredible resources" in one's life so that people will experience deliverance from addiction. "Let us not feel ashamed to reach out to others for accountability and support, to read books, do courses, seek therapy, and use legit resources," Neaves says. "Your Father can work through anything. Use the resources He has given you."

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