Sex doesn't have to be 'shady', says XXX pastor

(Facebook/XXX Church)Pastor Craig Gross of XXXchurch.com said sex doesn't have to be shady in order to be interesting.

With Fifty Shades of Grey hitting theatres soon, there could be the misconception about sex that it has to be dark and violent in order to be interesting, but XXXchurch.com co-founder Pastor Craig Gross is out to disprove that notion.

He has teamed up with Dave Willis, founder of StrongerMarriages.org in creating a series of videos called "Best Sex Life Now" which answers some Christian couples' questions regarding sex, such as whether it is appropriate for them to use sex toys.

"With the attention 'Fifty Shades' has gotten, a lot of couples are curious about that type of sexual behaviour. They want to know if it is okay for them," said Gross. "As long as it's within a marriage and something you both want to try, there's nothing in the Bible that says you can't. However, there are dangers when you start engaging in extreme behaviours."

His work with XXXchurch.com has given him a closer look at many adult trade shows in order for him to help those addicted to porn or the porn industry. Gross sadly noted that there has been an increase in the darkness and severity of sex.

The bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism (BDSM) dominant in Fifty Shades of Grey has already been the subject of criticism and concern, with some groups calling for a boycott and the UK film rating board giving it an 18 certificate for this very reason.

"It's great to have fun in the bedroom with your spouse, but when it gets dark or harmful, that's a whole different level. If you love and cherish your spouse, I question why you would want to harm or degrade them," said Gross. "The great news is that you don't have to engage in those behaviors to have an exciting sex life."

At the same time, he reminded married couples that there is a lot of freedom for them to explore and experiment in sex, but if they focus too much on make-believe fantasies, then they will miss the whole point of sex.

"Sex is a gift from God, and it brings intimacy and connection to marriage," said Gross. "It is meant for you to show your love for your spouse, and how much you cherish him or her."

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